When I was a kid, whenever I wanted to confess to my mother that I had done something wrong or if I wanted to ask for her permission to do something, I would often feel paralyzed. I’d repeatedly rehearse what I wanted to say and I would imagine the words building up ...

Sam is casually grocery shopping after having gone through another stressful week of the New York City grind. As Sam is navigating the fruits and vegetables section, something stops her in her tracks. Around her, nothing has significantly changed from a few moments ago ...

Hey there! In my previous post on depression I wrote that it’s mood and symptoms “stem from your beliefs about yourself, your goals and your appraisal of what a situation ultimately means.” I thought it would be useful to talk a bit more about the theory of emotions ...

“All things appear and disappear because of the concurrence of causes and conditions. Nothing ever exists entirely alone; everything is in relation to everything else.” – Buddha As a therapist, I’m clearly interested in what gives rise to mental health issues ...

The process of finding a therapist can be daunting. Whether you are considering therapy or you are merely curious to learn more about its nature, this post will discuss important factors to consider when searching for a therapist. There are hundreds of therapists out ...

“Due to a signal malfunction, we are experiencing extensive delays in F train service. We apologize for any inconvenience.” Who would have thought that this one announcement would lead to an eruption of several different reactions across the train car? Some people ...

Let’s talk about depression. Did you ever notice how a loss like a divorce can be a catalyst for one person to be devastated, while for another person it can lead to a new, better life? Hell, it can even be both of those things for the same person! What’s up with ...

The other day, I was passing through one of those quaint East Village gardens on a sunny afternoon and paused at a small patch of wildflowers that seemed especially happy about the warm weather. These flowers were about 10 inches tall, bright yellow, and literally quivering ...

As a therapist, I get asked a lot about angst and anxiety; what it is, how to avoid it, how to stop being anxious. We therapists do tend to study anxiety quite a bit, but I’m actually motivated to write to you about anxiety for an additional reason. Can I share a secret ...

I’m in love with my smart phone. There; I said it. “Love?” You might ask. “Really?” Really. The other night, I couldn’t find my phone. It was time for bed, and my phone was nowhere to be found. I tried calling it from my ostensibly obsolete landline, but since ...

A few days off over the long weekend break helped me find perspective. Taking time away from my normal hectic NYC routine to be with friends and family provided me with a chance to step back from it all, and consider everything from a different angle. I welcome these ...

How often do we ask ourselves if our behavior or the behavior of others is normal? The more important question is what does one infer by the idea of “normal”? What is normal anyway and if we are not normal then what are we? Normal has become a very loaded concept, ...

We have all had run in’s with friends, colleagues, family and significant others. Misunderstandings, clashes, frustrations and [] are an inevitable facet of our relationships with one another. Sometimes, if we are lucky, these end with an “I’m sorry”. But that ...

Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy, is a solution focused, goal orientated form of therapy. One of the most common questions therapists get asked in their initial meeting with clients is “How long before I get/feel better?” So, how long before clients actually do ...

The first few sessions after you accept you are going to werq at therapy rather than wait for the magic pixie dust, there are still remnants of being cynical, but you’ve decided to give it a try. You yearn for the instant solution but you wake up with the realization ...