Benjamin

Goldman

M.S.Ed, LMHC Senior Therapist

When we are distressed, stunned, or emotionally withdrawn, we reach for whatever tools are available. Some of these tools are adaptive; some are unhelpful. We have many tools available to us, especially in how we talk to ourselves when we're experiencing big emotions. But sometimes, we need new tools, or our existing tools need an upgrade. Sometimes, we develop tools to cope with family wounds or handle traumatic experiences.

I believe the therapist-client relationship relies on mutual trust, which is earned, not given. Having clear and measurable goals provides a strong foundation and accountability for our time together. With mutual trust and clear goals, I will help you build bridges between the unrealistic ideal self and the authentic self. Together, we will explore and challenge automatic routines and responses, develop discomfort tolerance, and practice self-compassion. I offer radical acceptance, self-efficacy, compassion, empathy, trust, pushback, and validation.

I love challenging the traditional image of a therapist: therapy shouldn’t be stiff and impersonal. In sessions, I bring my personality into the room, embracing a "seriously unserious" style that thrives on genuine curiosity and enthusiastic engagement.

When I’m not at work, you’ll find me at Equinox, planning a ski trip, on the NYT Cooking app, or walking my Bernedoodle on the Lower East Side.

My specialties include working with relationships and intimacy, masculinity, family dysfunction, workplace success and discipline, sex and erotic desire, substance use, and self-compassion. I received a B.A. in Sociology from Hamilton College and completed my Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling at Hunter College.

While I take a multifaceted theoretical approach, I’ve done focused studies in REBT and EMDR. If you're particularly interested in using EMDR for trauma reprocessing, please mention this when you reach out.